![]() ![]() To divorce (even if it’s just that you are no longer happy with your spouse for whatever reason) is not seen as a choice – it’s “unthinkable” b/c you would be letting down your family and your familial obligation. Cultures that actively promote and encourage arranged marriages have very strong ties to traditional behaviours at which the family is centre. I think it’s also important to note that the lower divorce rate in arranged marriages also has a cultural aspect in that divorce is “frowned” upon and could lead to a woman being ostracized for leaving a spouse that abuses, mistreats or cheats on her. I think too often we associate “arranged marriage” with “forced marriage” and that makes it harder to comprehend. Marriages “for love” are just as susceptible I think. I think that has more to do with failure on the parents part to choose a proper spouse for their child, whatever the reason for that.Īnd it’s not like abuse is unique to arranged marriages. ![]() The stories of young women being married off to abusive families.īut I don’t know that those things are unique to the nature of an arranged marriage. There are the tragic stories of 10 year old girls being married off to 50 year old men who already have 3 wives. I think she could have told her parents no and they would have found someone else they thought suitable until she agreed.ĬLEARLY, just from reading any handful of human rights stories, this is not always the case. It seems to me also that, at least in cases like hers, an arranged marriage is NOT a forced marriage. So you trust your parents to make that decision for you. She explained (as I recall – I’ll add her link at the end) that the basic idea is that your parents know better than you who an ideal match will be. They have a son and it sounds like their relationship is truly loving. She’s very, very happy with her parent’s choice for her husband. I don’t know anyone personally in an arranged marriage, but regularly read a blogger who is. If everyone you know has an arranged marriage, and your parents expect you to have an arranged marriage, you’re probably more likely to have one and see it as normal. I think a lot of it has to do with the ideas and values you grow up with. ![]() I don’t know if it’s so much religious as cultural. I admittedly am not religious…maybe I just don’t get it? Do you have to be religious to accept this as the norm? Or at least had little to say in who I was going to spend the rest of my life with. While I was able to choose my life mate based on love and attraction, 100 years ago I might have also been in an arranged marriage. I am actually fascinated with this subject. And after the marriage ceremony, the couples are expected to wait another 40 days until they can be intimate so they can pray for a pure start to marriage. Moon’s (his wife) blessing on their marriage. Worldwide, more than 36o million people have accepted the blessing by the Reverend and Dr. Tens of thousands of people were married by the church leader Rev. This must be a hot topic lately because just recently I also saw a documentary about the mass marriage ceremony by the Unification Church. Does a common religious belief make a marriage stronger? Of course, you could also claim that most of those who are in arranged marriages also do not support divorce. There are less divorces in arranged marriages then in typical marriages for love. does anyone I know believe in an arranged marriage? Do you think it could work out? Do you know anyone who has an arranged marriage? ![]() It was actually super interesting and got me thinking…. Lisa Ling followed 3 couples and one single girl as they dealt with arranged marriages. The show this past Sunday was on arranged marriages. Tune in to the all-new episodes of Our America with Lisa Ling Tuesdays at 10/9c! In each episode, Ling immerses herself into the lives of the people she meets and challenges viewers to understand different perspectives and sometimes even question what they themselves have always believed to be true in Our America. From the swinger lifestyle to young girls entering convents, from arranged marriages to child pageants, the new season of Our America with Lisa Ling takes viewers along for an in-depth look at some of the most controversial and thought-provoking issues in the United States today. ![]()
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